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The Divorce Optimist project aims to address a global issue: today, tens of percent of children experience one of the most profound traumas after their parents’ divorce or breakup—the loss of contact with one parent. This deeply affects children and has significant long-term consequences for their well-being.
I believe that every child deserves to have a loving relationship with both parents, even when the parents’ relationship ends. My goal is to contribute to systemic change that minimizes the negative impact of divorce and ensures children grow up supported by both parents.
Until local custody systems improve and effectively prevent divorce-related trauma for children, DivorceOptimist.com is here to support individual parents in breaking the cycle of intergenerational divorce trauma.
The Mission of Divorce Optimist focuses on:
1. Reducing divorce-related trauma for children: Children should never feel forced to choose between parents or carry the burden of adult problems. Parents need accessible consultations and support to handle conflicts effectively.
2. Promoting fairness in decision-making: Custody decisions should be fair and free of bias. It is unacceptable for one gender to be favored ten times more often in custody rulings.
3. Balancing parenting time: Every other weekend (15% of a child’s time) is simply not enough for a healthy relationship with the other parent. Research shows that children thrive when they spend at least 35% of their time with each parent.
4. Providing practical solutions: Introducing measures such as neutral handover locations or monitoring how often children see both parents until they are no longer entitled to child support.
5. Encouraging quick interventions: Long-term conflicts can cause significant psychological harm to children, including Parental Alienation Syndrome. Early intervention can preserve the bond between children and both parents.
Why This Matters
Losing contact with one parent after divorce is one of the most severe emotional traumas a child can experience. This not only affects their self-esteem but can lead to long-term psychological, social, and academic challenges.
When we ensure children maintain relationships with both parents, we:
• Break cycles of intergenerational trauma.
• Improve children’s emotional resilience and stability.
• Contribute to healthier communities through reduced conflict and shared parental responsibilities.
Every child who maintains a strong bond with both parents wins the “emotional lottery.” This is why I am committed to systemic reform and practical support for parents.
How You Can Help
The success of this project depends on a collective effort. If you believe that no child should lose a parent due to preventable conflicts during divorce, you can contribute by:
• Spreading awareness: Share this website with your community, on social media, or with anyone who might benefit from these resources.
• Sharing knowledge and resources: Help those in need by providing them with the tools and strategies to navigate divorce more effectively.
• Advocating for legal reforms: Support efforts to create fairer custody systems in your country or community.
Your support can make a real difference. Any contribution will help bring this vision closer to reality.
Together, we can reduce the trauma of divorce for millions of children worldwide and ensure they grow up feeling loved and supported by both parents.
• Donate: Contribute directly to support this project.
Contact
For more information or to discuss how your contribution is helping:
📧 Email: mission@divorceoptimist.com