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I can help you to maintain contact with your children post divorce. I had a very limited contact with my children for a coupe of years despite doing my best. I met the mentor who went throught the same shit and helped me to understand what is happening. I could do the same for you.

I mainteined the contact. I won the custody. I had to witness the execution of the court order. I went through a tough path. In the end it went well. E.g. we are one of the few divorced parents who were sitting at one table during important events in the lives of our children like celebration of 18th birthday, prom, etc.

One of the reference: “We managed to get through Christmas without any major emotional losses. You helped me a lot… I’ll see how things progress, and if needed, I would be truly grateful for another consultation…“ – Martina

I am Ales Pektor, a lecturer with both personal and professional experience in divorce. My aim is to minimize the impact of divorce or separation on children. I went through a complex divorce during which the court granted me custody of my children – a rare outcome for a father. While I achieved this outcome within the Czech legal system, I understand that parents in different countries operate under different laws. However, regardless of the legal framework, the key is to minimize children’s trauma and ensure both parents remain a vital part of their lives.

Parent-child relationships seem to follow similar natural principles across the globe – whether in the Americas, Australia, Africa, Europe, or Asia. My focus is on helping parents protect and nurture these relationships, even in challenging situations.

I have experienced rejection as a father, and in order not to lose the relationship with my children, I exposed myself to challenging and painful situations I wish I could have avoided. It was emotionally hurtful and difficult, and I understand why many parents might feel compelled to give up. This experience has given me profound empathy for those facing similar struggles. I have devoted thousands of hours to education, not only during my own divorce but especially after it – working on system reform, meeting with individuals who can contribute to that change, consulting with clients, and writing a book.

While I am not a lawyer or psychologist, I share strategies and approaches to help you better manage difficult situations and avoid common mistakes. I specialize in prevention – about 40% of parents turn to me before a divorce or breakup. I help them understand what’s ahead and avoid taking steps they might regret later. I also support parents who have lost contact with their children and help them rebuild relationships.

Courses and Consultations

Free Webinar: How to Protect Relationships with Children After Divorce/Breakup

• Duration: 35 minutes

• Who’s it for? Parents contemplating divorce or currently going through one, including expats seeking guidance on navigating legal and cultural challenges in a foreign country.

• Why attend? Gain practical tips to protect your relationships with your children and minimize the negative impact of divorce on their lives.

• Next Date: This course is currently unavailable. Once a new date is scheduled, I will ensure the information appears on this page.

• Format: Online

Course 1: How to Handle Divorce and Protect Relationships with Respect and Kindness

• Duration: 2.5 hours

• Who’s it for? Parents preparing for a divorce who want to minimize its impact on their children, including expats facing additional legal and cultural hurdles.

• What you’ll gain:

• Strategies for respectful communication during divorce.

• Tools to protect your child’s emotional well-being.

• Insights to help you prepare effectively for what lies ahead.

• Format: Online (Signal app)

• Next Date:  If you want to enroll in this course, please write a mail to: mission@divorceoptimist.com including your preferred dates. Once there are enough participants and a new date is scheduled, I will ensure the information appears on this page..

Course 2: How to Manage Broken Agreements and Repair Deteriorating Relationships

• Duration: 2.5 hours

• Who’s it for? Parents navigating the aftermath of divorce, particularly those struggling with conflicts, broken agreements, or unpredictable behavior from the other parent.

• Why attend?

• Learn practical techniques to resolve conflicts and maintain stability for your children.

• Understand how to react effectively to challenges without escalating the situation.

• Format: Online (Signal app)

Course 3: 7-Week Program: Habit Rebuilding Course: When It Feels Like Your Ex Is Influencing Your Children – and You Don’t Want to Lose Them 

This course is currently unavailable. Once a new date is scheduled, I will ensure the information appears on this page.

• Who’s it for? Parents experiencing separation from their children, often due to parental alienation or strained relationships, including expats who may feel isolated during this process.

• What you’ll gain:

• Tools to rebuild trust and communication with your children.

• Practical strategies to prevent intergenerational trauma.

• Emotional support to stay calm and persistent during this challenging time.

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