Why to work with Divorce Optimist?
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“We managed to get through Christmas without any major emotional losses. You helped me a lot… I’ll see how things progress, and if needed, I would be truly grateful for another consultation…“ – Martina
I am Ales Pektor, a lecturer with both personal and professional experience in divorce. My aim is to minimize the impact of divorce or separation on children. I went through a complex divorce during which the court granted me custody of my children – a rare outcome for a father. While I achieved this outcome within the Czech legal system, I understand that parents in different countries operate under different laws. However, regardless of the legal framework, the key is to minimize children’s trauma and ensure both parents remain a vital part of their lives.
Parent-child relationships seem to follow similar natural principles across the globe – whether in the Americas, Australia, Africa, Europe, or Asia. My focus is on helping parents protect and nurture these relationships, even in challenging situations.
I have experienced rejection as a father, and in order not to lose the relationship with my children, I exposed myself to challenging and painful situations I wish I could have avoided. It was emotionally hurtful and difficult, and I understand why many parents might feel compelled to give up. This experience has given me profound empathy for those facing similar struggles. I have devoted thousands of hours to education, not only during my own divorce but especially after it – working on system reform, meeting with individuals who can contribute to that change, consulting with clients, and writing a book.
While I am not a lawyer or psychologist, I share strategies and approaches to help you better manage difficult situations and avoid common mistakes. I specialize in prevention – about 40% of parents turn to me before a divorce or breakup. I help them understand what’s ahead and avoid taking steps they might regret later. I also support parents who have lost contact with their children and help them rebuild relationships.
Courses and Consultations
Free Webinar: How to Protect Relationships with Children After Divorce/Breakup
• Duration: 35 minutes
• Who’s it for? Parents contemplating divorce or currently going through one, including expats seeking guidance on navigating legal and cultural challenges in a foreign country.
• Why attend? Gain practical tips to protect your relationships with your children and minimize the negative impact of divorce on their lives.
• Next Date: This course is currently unavailable. Once a new date is scheduled, I will ensure the information appears on this page.
• Format: Online
Course 1: How to Handle Divorce and Protect Relationships with Respect and Kindness
• Duration: 2.5 hours
• Who’s it for? Parents preparing for a divorce who want to minimize its impact on their children, including expats facing additional legal and cultural hurdles.
• What you’ll gain:
• Strategies for respectful communication during divorce.
• Tools to protect your child’s emotional well-being.
• Insights to help you prepare effectively for what lies ahead.
• Format: Online (Signal app)
• Next Date: This course is currently unavailable. Once a new date is scheduled, I will ensure the information appears on this page.
Course 2: How to Manage Broken Agreements and Repair Deteriorating Relationships
• Duration: 2.5 hours
• Who’s it for? Parents navigating the aftermath of divorce, particularly those struggling with conflicts, broken agreements, or unpredictable behavior from the other parent.
• Why attend?
• Learn practical techniques to resolve conflicts and maintain stability for your children.
• Understand how to react effectively to challenges without escalating the situation.
• Format: Online (Signal app)
This course is currently unavailable. Once a new date is scheduled, I will ensure the information appears on this page.
• Who’s it for? Parents experiencing separation from their children, often due to parental alienation or strained relationships, including expats who may feel isolated during this process.
• What you’ll gain:
• Tools to rebuild trust and communication with your children.
• Practical strategies to prevent intergenerational trauma.
• Emotional support to stay calm and persistent during this challenging time.
Private Consultations: Personalized 1:1 Support
• Who’s it for? Parents seeking individualized guidance to address specific challenges during or after divorce. Ideal for those who need tailored strategies for navigating legal, cultural, or personal barriers.
• Why choose private coaching?
• Customized advice for your unique situation.
• Flexible scheduling to accommodate your needs.
• Immediate, actionable steps to help you move forward.
Corporate Courses: Supporting Employees Through Divorce
• Workshops for Companies:
Focused on how organizations can support their employees (parents) in managing divorce while balancing work and personal life. Providing support at this critical time is key – it requires little investment but significantly improves employee loyalty, satisfaction, and performance, especially when divorce is not treated as a taboo topic.
School Programs: Supporting Students from Divorced Families
• Workshops for Schools:
Programs designed for students, teachers, and school psychologists to better support children from divorced families.
⚠️ Disclaimer
I do not provide legal or psychological advice. All information, tips, and recommendations offered in consultations, courses, webinars, seminars, or other activities are based on a combination of expert materials, client feedback, insights from relevant literature, videos, research, and my own experience.
The aim is to support parents in maintaining contact with their children during and after divorce or separation, not to replace professional help from lawyers, psychologists, or other professionals.
I do not take responsibility for any decisions or actions participants may take based on the information provided.
For references from parents I’ve supported through individual consultations, please click here.
Next Steps
I look forward to meeting you in one of my courses or consultations. Together, we can work to ensure that your children emerge from divorce with meaningful connections to both parents and greater emotional resilience.